Dear Abby: My sisters treat me as ‘failure’ of the family

Dear Abby: I’m younger out of the four sisters. I lost one of them, “Rachel”, from cancer a few years ago. She and I was regarded as the “failures” of the family because we had to work hard to take care of our families, while the other sisters married. Rachel did not attend many family members who deal with family because, I am daring, she felt abroad. I didn’t understand it then, but I do now that it is gone because I feel the same way.

Aggravating to me now my sisters come to the city. They do not understand how difficult we have to work to achieve. They think that we and our children, who are also working hard, can rest at any time to join them when they come to short notice. Aggravating and I’m not sure how to approach this. Please help. – ‘Failure’ in Florida

Dear ‘failure’: Your “successful” sisters seem to be annoying annoying. The next time you receive an invitation to short notice, patiently explain to them the change in your lifestyle and theirs, and show that you prevent you from changing your schedule in falling a hat. Then tell them the amount of time you need to prepare. (Why would you like to gather along with anyone who makes you feel “less than” confuse me.)

Dear Abby: I have divorced for 10 years and since then I have rebar. I beg to meet my current wife nine years ago. I have four daughters, aged 24 to 37. Because my daughters seem to believe everything their mother tells them, it has been difficult to reintegrate back into their lives because they do not know what to believe or to whom they believe.

My young wife is disappointed when they don’t call me for big events, vacations, etc.). And I feel terrible because her kids make me a point to contact me for every event. Should I continue to admit where things are with my daughters and wait for them to realize that I am not a monster who was their mother? Or should I try to have a difficult conversation with each of them and get my chances of saying maybe wrong and do things worse? – Cursed if I do it or do not

Dear Cursed: I’m not sure what were the circumstances that made you divorce their mother, but your daughters are no longer children. They are completely in adulthood. I think a conversation with each of them is okay.

If you approach the topic by saying that things do not always work as it was planned, and if you have found to live with their mother to be tolerable, you would still be married, it can do the rest of what you have to say more liked. If your ex has accused you of infidelity, you have the right to protect yourself as long as you do not kill their mother’s character.

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