Dear Abby: I’ve known “Sheila” for 30 years. We used to be dear friends. It was always a social drink.
Twelve years ago, she lost her husband in cancer and began to drink more and more. Sheila is now an alcoholic.
Friends and family have tried many times to help him. She went to rehabilitation twice to calm her daughter.
She tried AA but said she was comfortable there. She had a home program for months, but only moved through the move until she was done.
Over the past three years, Sheila has passed out, fell and smhed her face and accidentally burned her home.
She has been taken to hospital by the ambulance several times, and recently received her second conviction.
My problem is, she calls me every week to check different daily topics as nothing has happened.
If I try to talk about her issues, Sheila says she is sorry and will do better, and then changes the topic. Our conversations are saddened and angry.
Should I finally handle it, or just wait for my life? I have tried to be careful and supportive when most of her friends wrote it but I’m about to give up. – completed in Maine
Dear ended: Tell the Sheila to always take care of her, you are no longer ready to stand by and see her try to kill her, because that’s what she has done.
Tell her that you would like to continue talking to her, but only once she has faced her serious alcohol problem and has begun on the path of healing. (Tell her daughter the same.)
Sometimes, a hanging person must hit at the bottom of the rock before they understand what their custom has cost them.
Dear Abby: A month action, I would fly all over the country with my husband to attend my nephew’s wedding.
It was a very special event because my nephew was never married and seemed to be a confirmed bachelor.
After we arrived at the airport and we would check, I have brought my identification. I told my husband to ride in flight without me.
When my husband arrived, he told his brother that I was not there because I had forgotten my identification.
My brother -in -law told my husband that he would tell his wife that I was sick and my husband agreed. I was angry with my husband when I realized.
I had told my husband to tell my sister -in -law that I had forgotten my identification. I am also angry with my brother -in -law for ying for me.
Should I tell my sister -in -law the truth and let her know her husband lied to me? -Nu-show in Virginia
Dear without show: A better way to express it would be to say your sister -in -law you can’t ride on the plane because you forgot your ID, and more I can’t understand why your husband and she did not give her the true reason.
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