There is a sweet baby video making rounds on Instagram now, and I haven’t stopped thinking about it.
The adorable video was separated from @themelaninatedmomma, a very pregnant American woman showing a giant mountain of diapers, wiping and gifts for children accumulated in her living room, gifts from a shower for surrounding children thrown for her husband by his work friends.
And look, I don’t care how emotionally you are dead inside you, if it doesn’t warm your cold, rusty heart, you don’t know what you want.
Even fathers deserve to celebrate
The video itself is good, but are the comments that really take it home:
“My husband’s associates did this when I was pregnant. He returned home all the excited kinds – mostly women, one made a cake, another made an amazing basket of needy gifts.
“Wait we can stop and accept and enjoy the fact that they threw a baby shower for their male associate because they are supporting his fatherhood. This is beautiful !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
“We forgot that fathers need demolition as well. I know this is a bunch of wipes and diapers, but it’s one less thing for them to think for a few months.”
And this gem: “We had one of these for a male associate – it was an explosion seeing this big guy wearing little clothes. I recommend a lot!”
Honestly, what should you not love for Big Kev from logistics by delicately keeping a strange thing and pretending not to cry?
Modern fathers are all in
Here’s the thing. Baby showers for fathers should not be weird. Or rare. Or played as an ironic “Dadchelor” celebration that features cigarettes and a jaw -themed drinking game. They have to be one thing – a meaningful, supportive rite, a little without meaning of the passage that says: Friend, you will become someone’s father, and we are here for him.
Because paternity? Is a great job. And as society is improving in the permission of fathers to participate in the emotional work of parenting, we still do not do a great job to support them.
We forget that the passage in the parent does not only belong to the person who holds the child. It is a seismic shift for fathers as well. Googling Paning Paning. “Does this car’s seat be wondered like that?” anxiety. The quiet moment where you dawn on them that a little person will soon rely on them for everything. That stuff deserves a cake. And maybe a Muslin three-pink ends.
The modern father is all. He is making annoying changes, swaddling, midnight resources. He is packing the jaw bag. Then why do we still act as Countdown to parentood is a spectator sport for it?
Let us normalize baby’s showers for fathers
Let them remove the bottle sterilizers with knee enthusiasm. Let them try to think about what a nipple shield is. Leave them with the hard pin bibs in a dress lying across the tea room. Because as much as we laugh at Alan’s idea of accounting playing “Guess the baby food”, we are giving it a moment. A marker. One way to say: This great, wonderful, terrible thing is happening to you too.
And let’s be honest, it’s not just about gifts. It is about the symbolism. Support. The team quarrels before the day of the game.
We’ve done a lot of work in recent years to shift the way we see modern paternity. Fathers are no longer “helping” – they are parents. Properly. And this deserves to be recognized, celebrated and yes, it turned out.
So next time, your friend, brother, barista or boss announces that they will become a father, do not hit them alone and say, “Good luck, spouse.” Toss it a shower for bloody children.
Let the big boy hold the small socks. Let the office mothers go fraudulent with a gift obstacle. Let it be fun, supportive and full of diapers.
Because parenting does not start in the delivery room – starts with the community. And everyone deserves to feel love, from day one.
Even the big kev.
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