Dear Abby: My husband and I recently moved overseas. His only living relatively, a system, recently came to visit. She has never been married. She is a retired professional and has a good pension, especially she has no children.
During her visit, she gave us a home greeting card with a $ 50 visa gift card. This was unusual as she never gave us money in 50 years. (She is very tight with her money and always insists on paying her share of each restaurant invoice separately.)
While she was here, I comment on her payment for a $ 5 coffee for her brother, and she was very offended. (I knew she would be, so I did it.) She then mentioned the $ 50 gift card she gave us and said that I probably didn’t even tell her brother about it even though he was in the room when she gave us.
We don’t need her money, and I want to send her back and say thank you for the thought, but we don’t need it. What do you think I should do? – Thank you, no thanks, in Florida
Dear Thank you: Really? I think instead of trying to create more problems with your sister -in -law, you need to write it and apologize for your comment on 5 $ coffee. Instead of returning the gift card, be gracious and accept it. Shame on you to consciously induce the pot.
Dear Abby: I’m a widow. My partner died 10 months of action. We were together for seven years, but we never got married. Now I have found a partner who is 12 years younger than me. We love each other and want to get married. My problem is, he is only separated from his wife. He says he does not want him and he is caught because she betrayed her. They are getting a divorce, but if I stay with it, I think I’ll go among them. Should what should I do – stay and hope for the best, or leave it? – Between in Massachusetts
Dear in the middle: This romance is in its infancy. You have only been widowed for 10 months. There is wisdom in the adage that after a trauma like what you suffered, a person should not make important decisions for a year.
Has this man or his wife presented the divorce letters, or is he just thinking about him? If the documents are raised, then you will not come between him and his wife. Divorce can also be traumatic, and, honestly, I am surprised that this man would think of marriage before his divorce is the last. Instead of deciding if you are going to leave it, take your time and see how this relationship plays.
Dear Reader: Happy father’s day for fathers everywhere – birth fathers, stepmother, foster fathers and guardians, grandparents and all you careful men who mentor children and complement the role of missing fathers.
PS also, a great cry for mothers with double roles. I applaud you all – today and every day. – Love, Abby
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