Dear Abby: Love of my life died in my apartment – I’m afraid to be just now

Dear Abby: I have recently lost the love of my life. He died here in our apartment. I’m heartbroken. I’m crying a lot of butt trying to keep myself together. I’m afraid to be here in our apartment by myelf, especially at night. I make arts and crafts and other things during the day. I thought about moving back to the place where we lived because there is not much public transport here. My grandchildren are near, but most cases I’m alone. I’m miserable. What should I do? – Only me now in Pennsylvania

Just dear: Please accept my sympathy for losing your partner. You stated that his death was the last and traumatic. Because of this, I warn you to wait about a year before making a life -changing decision. Consult your children and grandchildren before deciding to pack and move.

If you think you would have more social interaction if you come back to where you lived, this can be a valid reason. Right now, join a group of grief support (online, if transportation is a problem) and continue to learn how to adapt to life as a single person.

Dear Abby: I am a six -year -old mother and excellent for four. We are a close family and enjoy each other’s company. My mother is almost 80 years old. For reasons I could never understand, she did not like my children when they grew up and did not particularly connect with them. She once commented on me that she was upset with women her age because they were “obsessed” with their grandchildren and she wanted deeper conversations.

Mom left and would mostly only visit for holidays and birthdays. When children try to share things that were happening in their lives, she was not interested, and we eventually stopped inviting her to sports and recital events because she seemed upset she was there.

Now that her grandmothers have almost reached adulthood, my mother wants to connect with them. She sends them often and sometimes invites them to visit. They respond polytely, and a couple have gone to visit it, but none look interesting in a deeper relationship. This concerns her, and she has asked me to pressure her to visit her and get her more in their lives. But for them, it is a distance relatively. They do not feel close to her.

What is my responsibility now? I wish they had a closer relationship with my mother, but I feel difficult telling young busy adults they should plan advice to visit someone who did not try to make relationships with them were young. Any advice? – The torn girl in Washington

Dear Girl: Your only responsibility is to remind your mother for the truth. When it was time to establish a relationship with her grandchildren, she chose to miss her. Then explain that their pressure to include it in their lives as it excluded them from it did not have the desired effect because that ship sailed a long action.

Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.dearabby.com or Yes Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.