Dear Abby: My mother changed the date of family vacation and didn’t tell me

Dear abby: Two years ago, my mother invited my entire family to international travel during October. One year of action, my sister called me by asking if I could “cover some things” for her. When I agreed and asked why, she said she and our parents were going on the international journey four months ago. I was shocked.

No one had said that the departure date was growing up. When I asked my other sister about it, she was also still under the impression that we were going in October. When I brought my mother, she became very defensive and said we were all invited to come. No, we weren’t! The plans changed, and only one sister and her family were involved.

They’re on the trip now, and I don’t want any part of it. They are posting pictures in our conversation in the family group, and I have decided not to watch them. I’m not sure how to move forward from here. I am sad and frustrated for this while they are pretending everything is finally. – left behind in Colorado

Left -handed: When your mother and sister return from that trip, there must be a Fran’s “family discussion” for what went wrong and why he didn’t even think it was necessary to inform you that you and your other sister were excluded and why. Claiming that something that happened has never happened does not work, and if it is not repaired, the consequences can be prolonged.

Dear abby: My son is a dear man, father and son. He trains his 12-year-old son, my nephew, in Variaus sports and is sometimes just a spectator. I am worried because he often makes his son’s ability to play. He shouted at him during and after the matches, whether he is training or not. He shouted and shouted at all and later at home.

I have told my son, for no benefit, that it is eight to give constructive criticism, but without shouting. I have also told him how to press my nephew whenever he does. My mother -in -law is also at a loss of how to change his behavior.

My husband trained my son to sports when he was young, and he was also difficult for him. I love my family date, but I don’t know what to do in this situation. Abby, what do you think we should do? – Grandma ‘of the heart’ in New Jersey

Grandma: Your son may be a loving man, but he can use some drills as a father. One has to tell him that when a parent harasses a child about his or her poor athletic performance, he rarely produces a positive result. This makes him lose interest in the sport and damage the self -esteem of young people, and the effects can sometimes last a life.

Once you have had your great great from verbal abuse, do not be shocked if he falls out of sports. Your son should have learned from the terrible example his father decided that this type of “exercise” usually does not produce the desired result. He must bring out his aggression elsewhere.

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