Dear Abby: I am in love with the much younger man for whom the dog is sitting

Dear Abby: A man I know has been married for 40 years. His wife goes crazy with her for small things and stops talking to her for three to four months at a time. Also, he will do her dinner, and she will do something else. Or she will have dinner and quickly put it in the refrigerator. They leave very short notes of where they are going. During long trips, no words are spoken. If the enterprise or children or their grandchildren come, it places food dishes for everyone except it.

Then, the switch roll and is a big normal marriage again – with sex and everything else for three or four months. Then it happens again. This has continued for most of their marriage. But it was once the shortest period of time – two or three weeks – which I think is also too long to not talk. They raised children coming home and port noticed most of it.

When this man faces his wife during these stretches, she refuses to talk about her. I believe she should be bipolar. Its nephew is diagnosed with it and is being treated. Her husband is ready to divorce her even though he still loves her. He’s not sure what to do. Please advise. – Looking at Minnesota

Dear looking at: It is difficult for me to understand why the man would tolerate the emotional abuse that this man has suffered for 40 years. Please tell your friend that my advice is to consult with an attorney, describing what happened and ask what his alternatives to the status quo may be. He must then tell his children the truth about his marriage and inform his wife that he will no longer tolerate the way he is treated. He also has to tell his wife that if he does not receive professional help for her problem, he has left.

Dear Abby: I am a dog site in the 1970s who has taken care of a dog for the past five years. Its owner is a beautiful young man who is polite and polyte. We have had a good relationship.

A few months ago, he started seeing a young lovely woman and I’m feeling jealous and sad. I understand that I could be his grandmother and there could never be anything between us. Maybe I feel this way because I’m alone and I miss the relationship I had with my husband, who passed away 12 years ago. How can I overcome this feeling? – Lonely

Dear Sit: I’m glad you wrote. A dose of human association would be a beginning. If you are taking care of a dog, you have to walk it regularly and, because of that, meet people. Open a little. Look at which other activities are available to the elderly in your community and join some of them. Whether or not you fall in love again, you are sure to meet new people and have less time. Please think positively and try it.

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