Dear Abby: Is it rude to keep non-relays out of my family reunion?

Dear abby: We have an annual reunion of the weekend family that includes family and others important together with their children. Most children are adults now.

One of them (my granddaughter) was recently married and is asking if her new husband’s sister (and maybe her boyfriend) may come to reunion.

We have no other than participating in the immediate family, although we have a special participant this year.

My brother -in -law’s mother is here from South America. It will only come for the day rather than the whole weekend.

How can I politely refuse my niece’s request without damaging her feelings? – More or Merrier?

Dear M. or M.: An exception has already been made for your brother -in -law’s mother.

I’m not sure you can refuse to include the sister of the young man of your granddaughter (and maybe her boyfriend) this time without causing hurt feelings.

Pour some hottest dogs on the grill and cross your fingers that everyone will have a good time “just once”.

Dear Abby: I’m married for 34 years. My husband often accuses me of cheating on him and being disrespectful to him throughout our marriage.

I have said some things in the way I agree were disrespect, especially after being accused of lies, etc. However, I have never deceived or lied to him, as he so often accuses me. What do you advise? – honest in Georgia

Dear Honest: I wish you had written me about it when it started. If you had, I would have stated that the people who accuse their partners of lying to them and deceiving them often have done exactly that they.

He is accusing you of disrespect? What do you think he has done?

Tell your accusers/abusers that if he has evidence of his charges, he must come with you in a family marriage and therapist and discuss it, or you will leave it. Then, depending on his answer, follow.

Dear Abby: My Greatson is transgender and is very hurt when I am wrong with his name. I’m almost 80 years old and uses “she” sometimes when I talk to her.

I wrote to him a letter to college and told him that my brain is old, and if I continue to say “it” when we speak, we may continue to write and see each other less often if he continues to hurt him. Did I do the right thing? – wrong in Massachusetts

Wrong dear: You might have thought well, but I don’t think it was a wise choice. Unintentional Misgeneration is a fact of life in many families with a transgender loved one.

Looking at your nephew will rarely cure the problem you are experiencing. Seeing it more often can give you the opportunity to become more comfortable with its true identity.

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