Dear Abby: My husband won’t stop my mother -in -law from talking to us trash

Dear Abby: My mother -in -law has constantly attracted to destroy my marriage. My husband knows that they talk to us with the family, they think we do not know it, but he would not set any intelligible boundaries or control them. I have lost all the respect for him because he lies to me, telling me that he is confronted with them, when he knows about a fact he does not have.

We parted on the matter, and he spent four years dragging his feet until he became ill with his stagnation and the start of the meeting to make him act. He wanted to agree, so I make clear the conditions of returning together: face his family about their toxic behavior, get therapy on his self -esteem issues, and finish working in our home so that we can sell it and leave our neighbor, the hero’s years.

He finished the house, and after two years in the market and out of the market, I ended up selling it. But confrontation with his family never happens. I still grab them by talking trash for us, and he has refused to go to therapy. I have passed through therapy and management of anger and made a long way. But he is firmly embedded in his malfunction and does not see or care about how he affects me.

I spent the first 10 years of our marriage being an independent mirror of a woman. I refuse to continue to be that person after everything we have passed. When is it enough? – On a crossroads to the south

Dear Crossroads: It was enough when you finally realized that your husband would not change and admitted that he would never be strong enough to draw the line with his abusive family. I’m surprised that your marriage has lasted so long.

Dear Abby: How do you treat a friend who never stops talking? My tall friend has always been a good storyteller, but as we become older, she grabs every conversation when we gather. It is oblivious to verbal or body signs that the rest of us is made with the “conversation” she has chosen and would like to continue. If one is able to get a word in Edgewise, it immediately returns to the previous topic.

I depart from rallies that feel angry and frustrated. Is there any way to address this without blowing up an eternal relationship? – Muzzled in Midwest

Dear Muzzled: I don’t think there is. You stated that your tall friend has always been a good storyteller. It is possible that after everyone is aging, it has begun to have cognitive problems. It can also be a reason why she is not painting in social signs. Would her spouse have noticed any changes (if she has one) or her children (if any)? Start asking. And if the answer you get is that this is “the way it is”, for the sake of your conceit, see it less often.

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