Dear Abby: I see a psychiatrist and psychologist for generalized anxiety disorder, major depression disorder and border personality disorder.
According to my doctors, my psychiatric disorders are the result of 44 years of abuse I received from my mother, as well as the abuse she allowed others to cause me.
Her physical abuse stopped when I fought again at 17 years old. When I was 18, it was the last time her precious prince of a boy raised my fist for me because I told her that I would crush and arrest him.
Sexual abuse was stopped when I was 12, and I realized she would know what had happened all the time.
She also ended up wanting a relationship with my mother, but her emotional abuse continued until she died in 2013.
I was told because she is dead, I just have to let her go. My brothers supported her because they wanted to be in Mom’s good graces.
After years of hatred and abuse, I believed that the only family I had were my two children, but they too are cold to me now. They rebuke me – “Your mother has died. Coupo over her.”
How can I explain that when abuse begins before a child can walk, you not Just “overcome it”? – Bleeding heart in Ohio
Dear Heart Bleeding: I am very sorry for the unstable trauma you have experienced. Your children may imply well, but they are inattentive what the effects of physical, emotional and sexual abuse may be.
Not sure that your children will ever understand why you can not forget what your mother and sisters and sisters do without the help of a family therapist if you can persuade your children to accompany you.
Dear Abby: My father -in -law passed away, and I have never been especially close to my mother -in -law.
I have encouraged my husband to visit his mother and maintain a good relationship with her. It is healthy and very active and runs helms everywhere.
The problem is, whenever my husband visits, he brings home a purse (or bags) of the various items his mother gives.
They can be hats, gloves, socks, electric hand, T -shirts, tools, tons of beverage bottles, etc. Most items have never been used.
My mother -in -law were enthusiastic eager for auction and sale, and they did not just buy one of something; They bought in quantity.
When my husband brings these things home, I end up taking everything to our local donation center. How can I make him stand in front of his mother and tell her we don’t need more things?
I don’t want to be the one who will speak to her because she will create problems. Should I just be silent and continue to run to the center of donation for the sake of peace? – bitter in Pennsylvania
Dear dumped in: No. Tell your husband that he must run in the donation center to dispose of the items his mother sends home with him.
Once he donkeys do it, HEY will discourage his mother with good sense.
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